Uncomfortable Suprise!

So I was in class tonight and it was my 4^th class of the night.  I got to a question about “surprises”.  The question actually had something about "pleasant surprise" in it.  I wanted to make sure that they understood “surprise” because I wasn’t sure that they understood the word before which was “struggle”.   Actually the class was a bit of a struggle tonight.  It was the only the second time that I had taught this class and I think they were a bit nervous of my accent.  Well anyway I said, for some dumb reason… that a pleasant surprise would be a like a party and then asked if someone could tell me what an unpleasant surprise would be.  I think I was expecting to try to encourage participation.  So, a guy says…” I can”.  “Ok, then what is an example of an unpleasant surprise” and he said “like when my friend died”.  OMG, I felt so bad.  We were both apologizing.  He for saying that and I for asking such a stupid question like what kind of answer was I expecting to get, I was at a loss of what to say next.  Eventually the students and I were laughing at the situation.   At this point it didn’t matter what language we spoke we all understood uncomfortable and unfortunate.